How Would You Like To Communicate As If By Magic?

Have you ever been speaking to someone and just knew by the way they were looking at you that they really didn’t get what you were saying? Good communicators know that when this happens they have to adjust the words they are speaking so the listener can better understand them. It is not that the listener is being obtuse, or lazy.
People have an automatic built-in system for choosing the words they use when communicating with themselves and with others. This system reflects the way they meet the world. You may have noticed that some people like to feel and are always touching things to understand their textures or temperature. Others like to look at pictures and play videos games and still others like to hear lectures or tapes for understanding concepts and ideas. This is why there are so many different way out there to learn new things. Videos, CD’s, and books give a choice. Trainers know that some people learn better by watching the work performed and others by actually doing it.
If you want to communicate effectively with those around you and especially your family or partner you need to discover how each person communicates. It is fairly easy to figure out once you understand that the words they use will give them away to anyone who cares to pay attention.

A person would be a Visual if they used words or phrases like the following:

I see what you mean
I will look forward to the meeting
It is always worth noticing
This is a really nice view

A person would be an Auditory if they used words or phrases like the following:

I hear what you are saying
Those notes are melodious
That is very loud and high pitched


A person would be Kinesthetic if they used these words or phrases:

I feel really happy tonight
This towel is so soft and fluffy
I can’t put my finger on it yet
The pressure in my head is getting worse
The boss is making contact with the vendor today

Once you get used to looking, listening or putting your finger on the types of words that other people tend to use you can make the effort to remember. Then it becomes fairly easy to speak to that person using words that they would best relate to.
About 80% of the population are Kinesthetic and most people use all three of these occasionally. But each person has a main type that dominates. See if you can determine your type and remember to catch my next blog post where I will list out many more  words in each category to help you out. Have some fun with this.